Ladies, am I asking to much?

NoI definitely don't think it's too much to ask, but have you ever thought that maybe she feels uncomfortable sending you pictures of a sexual nature and such? She may be reserved in that respect.. Maybe she is confused as to what exactly you want, so why don't you send her an email that is somewhat like the type you want to receive from her and see what happens. As far as the laundry and such goes I think it's fair for her to be doing her share of the work, again maybe you just need to say hey honey this is what I'm feeling.. Sometimes miscommunication ends up resulting in the same situation that you are in, so definitely try this. Other than that i'm 100% on your side !